Monday, July 7, 2008

Types of Trauma Children Suffer in Dysfunctional Families


From the teachings of Pia Mellody

Trauma Descriptions




Enmeshment Trauma


Physical: (Use of implement s, face slapping, hair pulling, having a child physically nurture a parent and intrusive procedures.)


Physical SEXUAL: (Sex acts, sexual touching, sexual kissing and hugging, voyerism, exhibitionism, verbal sexual trauma, failure to have sexual boundary in the presence of a child, and child as a witness to sexual trauma.)


Emotional SEXUAL: (Involving emotional enmeshment by the parent or major caregiver.)


Intellectual: (Attacks to the shaming of or over control of the child's expression of thought)


Emotional: (Shaming of a child's expression of emotion. Refusal to let child express feelings or improper expression of feelings by the parent or major caregiver.)


Spiritual: (Religious addiction of the parent or major caregiver, trauma at the hands of a religious caregiver, parent acting like he/she is a god or goddess of the family, indulgence or false empowerment of the child, and moral perfection and obedience demanded from the child.






Abandonment Trauma




Failure to provide adequate:

  • food, clothing and/or shelter

  • physical nurturing

  • emotional nurturing

  • sexual information

  • medical/dental care

  • financial support or information

  • education

  • spiritual nurturing






From Pia Mellody's writings and lectures,

and professional training with "The Meadows" treatment facility.


And from

Facing Love Addiction

by Mellody, Miller and Miller

HarperOne, 1992.