Monday, July 7, 2008

A Few Definitions

A Botkin Syndrome Primer


Automatic Negative Thought

(cognitive therapy per Dr. Amen)


The state of self governing or self management, independent of others

Botkin Syndrome

The dysfunctional dynamics and long-term effects of the teachings of the Botkin Sisters and Vision Forum (Covert/emotional incest, non-sexual but gender related incest intermingled with the the teachings of patriarchy/patriocentricity)


The border or limit in a relationship where one person stops and another person begins. (That which defines a person's autonomy.) A lack of defined, established or defended boundaries causes dysfunctional relationships that result in emotional, psychological and relationship problems.

Chosen Child

Dr. Patricia Love's term for a child of covert (emotional/non-sexual) incest

cognitive behavioral therapy

Therapy to teach emotional control through correct thinking


Thinking function of the brain

dysfunctional family roles

enabler (caretaker), hero (good child), lost child, mascot (comedian), mastermind (manipulative child), scapegoat (problem child)


Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (therapy)


In terms of Botkin Syndrome, describes the relationship between an adult and child wherein the adult uses the child to satisfy his/her adult needs


  • covert

  • overt

As related to Botkin Syndrome, incest is the using of one family member (generally an adult) in an inappropriate way to meet needs at the expense of the other party.

(Does not always refer to sexual violation.)

  • Covert: Use of a child by a parent (or sibling) to meet adult needs (non-sexual emotional, psychological or religious)

  • Overt: sexual violation


Close acquaintance, association or familiarity (apart from sexual intimacy; need not imply sexual intimacy)

Love Addiction

Pia Mellody's term for an unhealthy pattern in relationships wherein the addicted person resists emotional intimacy through fantasy but craves love, attention and care from an objectified partner.

Love Avoidance

Pia Mellody's term for an unhealthy pattern in relationships wherein the avoidant person resists emotional intimacy through caretaking or rescuing their objectified partner.

objectify (objectification)

To view or treat a person as an object by failing to recognize or appreciate the full value and essence of someone's personhood or humanity

personality disorder

A clinical term for a consistent/sustained pattern of behavior stemming from a person's personality traits


A compulsive behavior such as cutting, picking skin, pulling hair, interfering with wound healing. Reduces anxiety by stimulating the production of endorphins and is often a symptom of unresolved, chronic trauma and Borderline Personality Disorder.

sexualize (sexualizing)

To attribute sexual characteristics and qualities to things that are not sexual in nature. To see all things in terms of sex or gender

shame-existence bind

Guilt and discomfort experienced by both children and adult children of enmeshment over having needs that must be met. Guilt induced by chronic feelings of worthlessness learned in dysfunctional, shame-based relationships.


One thing or person that takes the place of another. In terms of Botkin Syndrome, refers to family members replacing the role and function other more appropriate family members for the purpose of meeting basic human needs (can include basic physical, emotional, psychological, religious or sexual needs)


Psychotherapy (treatment of psycho-social conditions through various modalities such as family, cognitive-behavioral, EMDR or other therapy to improve mental health and function